Do you have family near by? I just want to make sure you have all of your bases covered when you begin testing and surgery. I know that you are EXPECTING him to be there 100%, but I hope that I am wrong, but w/him being in mlc, he may not always be reliable. This is something that you can't always know the outcome of w/mlcers. Even if your h is reliable and will be supportive through this next round of testing/surgery, your children will still need additional support when their father is at the hospital w/you.
I know you do not want to listen to what I'm trying to tell you, but you do need to have a Plan B and the one you suggesting for yourself is not an option. Your boys need their mother and to put off surgery just because your h may not be supportive is not rational. Start thinking of a family member or friend that you can trust w/the information, if it should come down to someone being there for the boys while he's at the hospital or at work. Everyone should have a Plan B when it comes to medical tests and surgeries. No one should have just one plan in place as anything can happen.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
