Thanks Tallula. Your post probably saved me from backsliding tonight. It seems that we are finally at a point where she seems willing to discuss the relationship and my gut tells me I should, but I have learned not to trust my gut in this process. I'll keep distancing.
IF your W brings up the R, by all means, listen to her. Validate her feelings. Really listen. Keep your feelings to a minimum. She knows you want to save the M. The best R talks H and I have had recently have been because I just listen. If he asks how I feel, which he does, I say it. Or say I'll have to think about that.
Originally Posted By: hadrianus
One thing that concerns me is that she is the most stubborn person I have ever met. I think even if she realizes she made a mistake she will never back off her decision. I guess I'll just have to see what happens.
Yes, you will. Don't let these negative thoughts get you. You have NO IDEA what she will do. If you focus on what you will do, GALs 180s, you will think less and less about your S and what they are/will do. Try to keep pulling yourself in to right now.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
