I am very emotionally dependent to W and don’t have friends that I feel comfortable sharing this with. I need to make new friends as part of my GAL, as this is something I have fear of doing. Unfortunately I cant make new friends and unload this on them… But I do need to make new friends for myself, I agree.
This is good you have an understanding of building a support network. I understand the fear you might have of making new friends. Once you get the ball rolling you would be surprised how it can build. Of course, that doesn't happen overnight. You would also be surprised at how sympathetic and understanding men can be with men. I am having conversations with men in my support network that does not include sports or what's going on at work. A big change for me.
The support network doesn't need to be large. I'd say 2 to 5 is good.
One thing I did was join a men's group at church. Two men in the group reached out to me when I shared my story. It wasn't easy to do but so glad I did it and as a result there are a couple of guys I get together with and share our relationships. That is good therapy. It's beneficial for me and the friends I get together with.
