Still confused...about everything.

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Snodderly,

Thanks for the advice...the boys and H do a lot of things together...H also "intrudes" on my time a lot by stopping by where he knows I will be with my boys like classes and the house...it really is not an issue for me that he does that as my time with my boys is spent with my boys, so if he wants to tag along, I haven't minded.

I like your idea of asking right before, except instead of a few days prior I probably will just ask the day of as he doesn't even know that I will be without my boys, so I will probably just notify him that day that they will be away and see if he wants to go to dinner and catch up...this way, if he has plans already, he won't be pressured to go out with me...

I started taking Stress B Complex vitamins over the weekend, and they seemed to have helped me cope better with the daily stuff that comes up. I really do like feeling calmer about things, so that should help me cope further as the situation progresses with H.

Snodderly, I know you say be patient and keep my expectations at zero. I do/am having a hard time with this even though I psyche myself out sometimes and try and make myself beleive that that is what I am doing.

AJM, once said that he saw hope in my situation because my H is trying to stay connected...do you see the same thing? I know it is a bumpy ride and things don't happen overnight, and can change from day to day, but an honest opinion from anyone who has read my sitch helps me gain clarity...sometimes I feel like he is so done with me, moving forward with his life, and then he "reaches".

Yesterday, I took your advice and let him lead, and I have to say that I felt more positive about things and not so rejected and hopeless. By this, I mean that I did not initiate any text messages other than one about the kids schedules this week. He texted me "Good morning" yesterday and expressed that he had a good time on Saturday. I responded back with just a quick "Good morning" as well, that I was glad he enjoyed himself and to enjoy his day. He responded with "You have a great day too".
Then, later on in the evening I texted him about the kids schedule this upcoming week and he asked if I was upset with him and apologized if he upset me in anyway and then proceeded to ask about my day. I told him a "No, I was not upset just busy". From there we texted back and forth for about three hours and H invited me to go to dinner with him and the boys Thursday night which is his day and to play pool with them on Saturday. Wow! Two invites on two different days in one night. Now I will say that I left the invites open and didn't confirm or deny that I would go on either one of those days. Part of me taking the pressure off of him to feel obligated, and part of me to see if he confirms the invites later on this week. I am trying to make him the pursuer a little...

Please Snodderly and anyone who wants to comment...please give me your honest, no holds barred opinion if there really does look like hope in my situation or if it looks like I am being played a little and being set up for a disaster.