Running on Fumes

[AliSuddenly]

I agree with Snodderly then.. listen and validate! I used to make notes when he rang and read them back over to see if there was any change in his sitch/with ow. For a long while there wasnt.. on the surface, but just like they are ruminating for a long time before the bomb.. they are also ruminating for a long while before they emerge from this time in their life. I later found out my H wanted to come back to me 6 months before he did, but he limped on with ow and never even saw me (maybe once?)during this time. So anyway... for now, you have to go on what he reveals to you. Which is a lot about how crappy he feels. But he wont always feel that bad.

Which reminds me, people felt sorry for me, and I did too, but I never lost sight of his suffering and that this was a very real and hard thing that was happening to him too.