I didn't have to move out. I just did it when she asked me to and after I did, I found I could actually get some sleep. Before I was tossing and turning and just getting nothing. Some nights when it was particularly bad, I wouldn't get a wink of sleep. Although I have moved out of our bedroom, I will not leave our home. If she wishes for a separation, she will have to leave. She has said before that she thinks it should be me who has to leave because all of this is my fault and she doesn't want to look like the responsible party in the breakup of our family.

7720, my wife is behaving exactly like that... a 20 something. It's all about blaring her music without regard to anyone else's feelings. It is also about a fresh new wardrobe and drinking and dancing. She has told me that for fourteen years things have been my way and now it is HER turn.

There really is nothing you can do and I think I have finally come to that conclusion. I really wish she would wake up and snap out of it, but when I look at her history of how she avoids conflict and shuts the door on things and just walks away, I am very aware that she may never do that. In light of this, and the fact that she keeps standing her ground that she doesn't feel any romantic love for me anymore (and that's what she's looking for), I feel I must begin to build a new life for myself without her.

Grateful, I am pretty sure I have always seen her make a head decision and stick with it. I can't remember a time when she changed her mind after she made a formal statement of a decision she has made. Since she has formally told me that she feels nothing for me, I must believe that the road she has chosen and will continue to follow is the road to divorce.

If most WAS's are women and most WAW's follow through and don't rebuild, given my wife's mode of operation, I would say she has nailed the coffin shut and it will remain that way, which is very unfortunate for ALL of us.

I haven't REALLY turned up the LRT before. This time, it's for real for me, because I've had enough. I don't like her the way she is. I love her, but I don't want her the way she has become and I know there are very nice people in this world. I come in contact with them every day. I am NOT giving up. I just think I have finally come to see the stark reality that is before me and our girls.

Lets hope my coach has some good insight and concrete steps for me to follow.

Thank you VERY much for your support. You guys really are great. I wish you weren't here on this forum, but I am thankful for your insight and your kind words.