Had a nice time at church today. W and a friend were talking as we walked in about how they have to watch their weight when they live with husbands that are thin. Then we had some playful back and forth during the service. Afterwards the boys and I went to visit family. Met with W to drop off her car to get it repaired on the way home. I was discussing how I needed to replace my car and she commented that we could afford a payment starting in April because hers will be paid off. Again with the 'we.'

She came up and ate supper with us and to do her laundry. Boys left the table and she asked if my parents had asked about her. I told her that they do and are concerned and sometimes angry. She stated that if we stay married, visiting with my parents most weekends would not be something she would want to do. I told her I understood that and knew that would be ok. She then said that if she had to decide today to either go back to the way things were or get a divorce, she would choose divorce. I said that was fine, but financial issues are going to have to be dealt with at some point, mainly the house. She said she knew that. I then got up and walked off.

In the span of two hours I got more mixed signals than I care to figure out. What a frustrating ordeal.

M - 42
W- 37
S's - 9,6
M-12
T-14
FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011
ILYBNILWY - march '12
FIL - died jan '13
W Moved out week later