Several opinions here...all care about you --all are valid -- mostly yours and your wife 's
Without discounting the others--I don't at all--they have GREAT points. Mine will get the yawn or eye-roll, so feel free to 'bring it'---
Give this vacation a stupor, ESP since its YOUR idea.....invite her, enjoy it, make a memory, if only for your kids. Let go of any and all expectations and see what you get that you can build on. If she will go, you have a lot more going for you than a lot of folks would give their eye teeth for, even if some folks don't agree.
Whatever you decide , we're on your side, you've done a great job so far.
Several opinions here...all care about you --all are valid -- mostly yours and your wife 's
Without discounting the others--I don't at all--they have GREAT points. Mine will get the yawn or eye-roll, so feel free to 'bring it'---
Kinda hard to "bring it" when you suddenly and completely arbitrarily MODERATE my posts. If "all (points) are valid," why not let them see the light of day -- immediately -- and let the original poster decide for themselves which is the best course of action?
I think 2TP is a big boy, and can handle it, don't you?
But I'm interested to know why you are suggesting that dbmod. Divorce Busting is about doing what works. Being at wife's side is not working for him. We have seen 17 months of that.
She almost died and he was there for her every step of the way. He did this w/o expectations from her (at least none that he projected on her)
If that didn't change her mind - why would a vacation?
I can understand your point about creating a good memory and would suggest it myself if this would be early on in his sitch. But it's not and it's more of the same from him.
IMO - he needs to experiment with some 180s. A 180 here would be living his own life and letting his wife figure out on her own if she misses him enough to reach back.
Yes it's risky and may not get the answer he wants.. but it will definitely be an answer he deserves to know.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
