You might suggest that your h and the boys do some things together w/o you once in a while.
Your h appears to be very comfortable in planning things and following through on those plans. If I were in your shoes, I would not ask him out on a date just yet. You mentioned that there was something you wanted to do in a couple of weeks...I would wait until a few days before that special time and see how things are going then. It may come down to you saying that you would like to go to such and such place and then leave it up to him to say whether he would like to go or not. Asking him point blank may put pressure on him to make a decision and I don't think he's ready to do that.
Please be patient and keep your expectations at zero at all times. Keep the focus on you and your boys.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
