Thank you Starsky, I needed to know that what I was asking wasn't far fetched. I reread online articles about building trust and gave me the book "After the AFfair" because I know I'm not making this stuff up as I go along.
However, I'm really struggling pulling back. This is the hardest part for me. It's always been struggling with this since Day 1.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017