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AS, maybe I'm a bit off here since I wasn't a WAS and you weren't either, but from the DR description I know I feel like I am now...and in a way it sounds like you are too.

You said that you're not consistent on whether or not you're really done. You say how happy you are but then there's that shred of doubt. You tell W you're going to date unless she steps up the passion and affection. It sort of sounds like the "fog", hurt and confused, and exit plan of a WAS.

The reason I'm saying this is b/c a WAS SAYS they are done but their actions don't always back it up. They drop D-DAY but don't file. IF somebody is really done, and what the other person says or does has absolutely ZERO effect, then D would be filed and over with.


I can't file, there is nothing to file. But I SAY I'm done, that I don't care, and when I'm not interacting with my ex-gf at all I'm fine and GALing...but let somebody tell me some inside info about ex and OM and my mind reels. I start wondering if there is still that tiny bit of hope...if she's running the script (thanks Cadet)...


So what I'm getting it is that a WAS will put up a content front for a long while as they plan their escape. They don't speak up and they just keep filling their gunnysack of displeasure. Then they declare "I'm done, that's final"...but sometimes that's just words.

I still think you have real hope AS. Don't give your W reasons to rebuild that wall you've been chipping away at.