i see some of my W in yours, the desire for freedom and the anger. i made a great many mistakes b focusing on her (her pain and fear) as i tried to forgive and let go... lately i realized that backfires if i don't focus on healing me first, that healing me is the only way to let go of her in a healthy way due to all of MY own fears. i have realized that those fears need to be addressed first, because the only way for me to let go in a healthy way is to find a way to be happy with me.
and i think you can do a form of listening and validating now by accepting where she is at right now (D) and not pushing for R.
i wish you well, DRM.
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
