Later on I text him, I would rather heal with you. But if you'd rather step back, I would understand. He text back, there will be no stepping back from me. We will be fine.
Vero, I would encourage you to stop initiating these types of talks and text exchanges. I think I posted to you earlier about how I've never seen one of these "piecing" things work yet, where it is the BETRAYED spouse pursuing -- you need to flip this on his head: HE needs to be asking YOU what it's going to take to come back to the marriage.
However, since you did start this, I would have responded to the above with "Well, then I think you know what you need to do. This is YOUR mess, and you need to clean it up. Your words, unfortunately, don't mean anything to me anymore. Actions."
