I know that's what was expected of me before piecing, but now I think it was fair of me to ask for reassurance.
I absolutely agree 100%, and so would any good IC or MC/FT who has extensive experience helping marriages heal from infidelity.
I would tell him "It sounds to me like you're not ready, and that's fine -- I'm not going to 'sell' you on this. Just know that I won't wait forever, and I have some decisions to make." And then LEAVE HIM BE and live your life.
The "30 days" thing is bullchit, Vero, but I suppose you already know that.
