Would it be easier for you if you found out she was gay? And maybe that contributed to the issues? You're hung up on the blame portion. And in my experience, as long as that remains the case, you'll have a really tough time getting on.
Go on and allow that she will blame you. She will kick and spit and do all kinds of things to alleviate and soothe her own feelings. Give her that and accept that will happen.
Respect? From her? Really? What would that be worth, F? Let go of her blaming you, and I think you'll find the rest is irrelevant. Give it a go and let us know what you see...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
