3 Months in, Still fighting. Crunch time!

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There is not a chance in hell that W gets into another situation with this gutmy or any other Guy. I know how she is and that's not how she is.[quote=SM34]

Sorry to say this SM but apparently it is how she is. She is in an active A as we speak is she not?

[quote=SM34] We just spent another evening together and she was being very sweet to me. What stands between a recincilluation between us now is OM. If that relationship ends I am certain we begin to repair the damage.[quote=SM34]

Mind reading my friend it does you no good.


[quote=SM34] Another one of those gut feelings. I think we all know our spouses well. This is her little failing fantasy and then I am quite certain she will be done with tgmhis fantasy stuff.

Yes you are right about we all know our S but let me tell you this. For the amount of time I was with my W before she decided to have an A I believed that that was something she would never do to me. Boy was I ever wrong. I'm not trying to dash your hopes I'm just trying to tell you to not be so over confident that once this A is over that she will come back to you because if you have your hopes set on it and it doesn't happen you are really going to be hurting.

So at this point do you still plan on letting her carry out her A without setting any boundaries in regards to money? I certainly don't want to go against what Laurie has told you but I do have the experience of A. I'm not suggesting you throw her out at all but I believe that once you put some boundaries in place your W will start to respect you and remember I was told this by my W once we R. My W did not find it attractive at all that she was able to do whatever she pleased during that time. So Laurie had nothing to say about your W's comment about "if we had gone to counseling even a week or two before I started talking to OM, I am sure I would have been more than happy in our M and none of this would have happened."? I find this comment very bizarre. She had a timeline on your M? WEll like I said I'm not here to tell you to go against what Laurie has told you.