Sorry you're here. I'm new here to so I'm sure someone else can provide links that will show up faster than mine. There are success stories and relationships that do get through this. Unfortunately, it takes time and work.
I can assure you that everyone on this board wishes they could provide you with a pill that cures your H. There isn't one. Take the advice these folks offer, and never give up!
Update: W came up yesterday evening and ate supper with us. During supper we talked a lot about plans for our bonus room for the boys. It is still furnished for play with toys but is transitioning to a WWE wrestling ring. It was nice for everyone to participate in the plans. Talked about furniture and entertainment more suited for preteens. Ping pong, pool table, bean bags, flat screen tv, etc. after we ate we all went up and wrestled. W even hoped the boys take me on. It was nice to have her touch me even if in play. We all had lots if good laughs. The boys were beyond happy to play with us.
After W went back to her apt she sent me a pic of a cat she's been trying to befriend, and its working. She had it on her bed. She was so proud. There was back and forth discussion about her cat whisperer ability's. she ended it by saying she was taking care of the cats there for now. I latch on to the for now as a sign she knows it temporary.
Got to get everyone ready for church. I hope everyone has a wonderful day.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
