Hi stilllooking up. Thanks for popping over to my stich.
'Those who dig deepest may at first find some unpleasant surprises'
Boy is this true! I have a pad full of them and things still pop into my head. Nothing particularly nasty, but situations/behaviours that you look back on and think urghh!
FWIW W did make some things up as well and in my sitch the knack was to find the truths or the elements of truth in what she said. But when I dig deeper I discover more and more about myself that I need to change!
Re S my W was also very clear we were done. I would not read too much into whether it is a trial or permanent. A WAS may say it is a trial to spare you the hurt, may say they are done to hurt you more or they may actually mean it...IDK, but point is it distracts you. Would you behave differently in your work here if you thought it was a trial or permanent? If he tells you then fine but IMO I would not push for this discussion.
'but what if you posses completely opposite traits and have to live with me 24-7?'
For the record your sitch struck me in that me and my W had a similar dynamic. W was the organised one, very particular in what she liked, critical of others etc etc and I was the more laid back one (too laid back). So we are opposites in the same sitch! So when you say your H tuned in I bet he did as I did for all these years and tuned out as 25yrs says! He let you get on with it for an easy life?
....but W came to resent this in the end as she shouldered too much of the burden at home.
Just some food for thought and sorry I could'nt be more help.
