Originally Posted By: Big Bruce
result of the hearing

Hello,
So, I get Tuesdays and Thursdays from 5h30 to 7h45, and every other week Saturday from 9h to 3pm
After two months the Saturday time gets transformed into Friday evening to Saturday 3pm
and after two months it gets transformed into Friday evening to sunday morning. every other week.

But, she got child support, spousal support, alimony, child care. Which amounts to half of my salary ! Which means she earns more than me now. I'm so mad.
I pay my rent, and the bills and more or less that's it, I can't put money aside, nevermind pay a mortgage or go on vacation..

And oh, it's retroactive, I have to use my savings, and borrow money to pay what I owe. I'm broke.

If I was in france I wouldn't have to pay a dime, but then I wouldn't see my son. So, it's not an option either.

First reactions from you? Fair, not fair, to be expected?
What do I do? Put a smile on while giving her the checks?

Tell her that now we have to ccoperate for the good of S, or is that a form of pursuing?

I have so many questions, I'm very confused, please help me.
(or pray for me..)

Thank you,
Bruce


Wow, Bruce. You have been pounded mercilessly ever since you got to this forum.
I don't see where you were a bad enough husband to warrant an ambush divorce with little to no communication from your W.
I guess I'll chalk it up to her being an immature, spoiled brat. Passive-agressive much? Yikes!
And what kind of mother thinks it's a good idea to keep a child from his father?? Have you heard of The Golden Uterus Syndrome? Google it. Very interesting and horrifying.
Anyway, I understand completely how you feel. I was also on the receiving end of an ambush D and it bankrupted me. Little to no communication between us, although that was mostly my doing. I went dark immediately. Turns out he didn't like that.
Our D became final a year later and he remarried.
And five years later he came crawling back, paying my mortgage because he finally felt bad for the way he treated me.
So, I just wanted you to know that at least one person here understands how you feel.