Rachael, Your man is in mlc and he isn't going to feel humbled until he's gone through the entire crisis. Right now, he wants to sweep everything under the carpet and continue status quo. He looks to you as if you are a friend. He knows what he stands to lose if a divorce takes place.
You are expecting your h to react the way he did pre-crisis...not going to happen for a very long time. Keep your expectations at zero at all times.
The question I have for you today is this...are you sure you want to go through w/a divorce? If you are filing as a knee jerk reaction or in anger, then you aren't ready. If you aren't sure, then you need to pull the papers back.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
