Thanks guys, I'm in a much better place these days.
Ad - that's a shame that H is still being that way with the boys, discipline and rules are important, but so is having a good time with your children and showing them that you love them by having fun in the moment. You've never lost sight of that being the most important side to your relationship with the boys. It's a shame there's nobody (friends or family on his side) that can't get that through to him.
Thanks Bond, it's weird because this just happened naturally and I think this could only have happened once I'd regrouped and fixed myself.
I definitely won't be making the same mistakes I made 1st time around, but at the same time, I've not once compared this girl to my stbxw.
I'm really happy and if things are still going well in a few months time, my next dilemma will crop up, introducing her to my kids.
That's way off for now though, but my kids will always come first.
Thanks
Bill
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13