How to make it work again?

[scaredsilly]

I think it's a little of both. We do have an old friendship we're trying to repair and he does offer me financial security. As long as I can be satisfied in my life with him, there's no reason to leave. Splitting up all our assets would be a nightmare.

I do find him trying to be thoughtful. For Valentine's day, he took one of my items I needed from a mate and made a whole project out of it and surprised me. I was very touched that he mentioned the item from the list.

I will be trying to keep some of the independence I gained during our S. If I can maintain a lot of that, I'll be content.

My greatest fear, though, is him cheating my son out of his inheritance from me. We have a living trust but who really monitors the accounts after one spouse is gone? My son was left out by his own father and will have to depend on his stepmother' s honesty. My H has shown my he can't be trusted with money. I don't know any other fix than to D near the end of my life should I get any advance notice? I would have been so much better if we had kept all our resources desperate.

Please, don't anyone who has not been in a step family, with adult step children, and my H, tell me I'm too concerned with money...