I think H may be unsure as well. Sometimes saying things outloud makes us believe it, don't you find?
The lack of pressure is a good thing...something I should work on.
My H is a little freaky if I don't come absolutely clean with activities as well. Weird...I make it a point never to ask about his, except if he volunteers info. Like he went to a movie, so I asked How was the movie? He said great movie great night....didn't get much sleep. So, I gotta quit asking these things lol!! Because he always volunteers more than I want.
If he asks, I try to say without specifics, but if he asks for specifics I tell him. Don't know why he needs to know, he just does and frankly it does not bother me. I just don't volunteer
