Wow, FM. You have a nice L! Mine just wants to get his money. Of course D is not the best answer, but you can't explain that to a WAS. They'll just want to pull away more and more. Her anger is to cover her guilt and low self-esteem. All you can do is continue being the best you can be, and let her be who she wants to be now.
And yes, the past A definitely influences her (and your) perception.
