House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 3)

[FloydMan]

Well just heard from my L and he spoke to W's L and they do not want to go to court and want to settle things outside of it so they will not be putting court application in at this time. They are open to a meeting late next week or early the following week. Financials need to be submitted by Monday next week and then negotiations begin. Her L made it clear once again that there is no OM and why wife has been so offended is that she thinks I believe so. I have NOT made any accusations to her about this except months and months ago as it pertained to her previous affair. I have vented on this board about it being a possibility but never to anyone or her directly. Other people in my life assume there is and they tell me that. Her L made it clear to mine they want to settle this and W is not interested in reconciling right now and just wants to move on. Together financially we would be in good shape. Separately it will be tight. Though it is not about the money, I would be fine. I think she would struggle with the way she spends. The kids would not fare as well. Stats do not support kids do as well or better after D. Could her hate be that she feels guilt from before and that she feels I do not trust her or ever will? My L said this D should not happen. He said he would prefer to save the family as we have so much compared to most. His hands are tied in making that happen other than trying to influence and educate them on the negative impact of D long term. Said he wants to open that discussion if and when we all meet. Said he has seen couples turn around from much worse situations.