FY, I agree she's softening up a little. Don't read too much into the "we" comment. My H still uses it all the time: "When we sell the house," "Our stock appreciated," "We have this much in the IRA," etc.
What I would like to see from you is an account of behavioral changes that are likely to be noticed by your W. Do you really know what she would like to see to feel happy in the M? Have you pinpointed the behavior that caused damage to the M?
