Thanks, FY and GTO. What you are is what you get, not what you give. If you are love, you'll attract love.
Anyway, onto a less loving topic. I sent the agreement to my H and he reacted the way I predicted. Called immediately. Said he was going to quit his job so he would not have to pay alimony. Said we were going to court. Said he knew the L would want a contested D, etc.
I told him my goals: to decide on a fair contract that we both feel good about, and to be at peace. He said he had a feeling he was going to feel like he had "lost" after it was all said and done. I told him to change his perception and repeated my goals. Not an easy call. As anticipated, he wanted to meet tomorrow. I told him the earliest date I'm available due to work/my own research on the topics is Friday, so he agreed on a Friday meeting.
It's interesting how I can predict his behavior so well. Now he'll go w a negative attitude to the negotiation. I should've pushed back more when the L sent the doc, but it's too late.
Wish me luck. Now I'm off to the weekend conference. Can't wait.
