I don't know, I think maybe it's a good thing that they witnessed you lose your sh%t. At least S15. It's hard to interpret his actions/intentions from your description, but it sounds like his insertion of "humor" was totally inappropriate for the moment. They need to have some recognition of how much you've got going on, or they're going to except overfunctioning and calm from everyone they meet. You responded like a "normal human being." How dare you?! Not! Better they learn it from home than from the world, I say. Plus, you're setting one heck of an unreasonable expectation from their future W's. I can just hear one of their arguments: "When my mom and dad were M'd, my mom did everything and never got mad, but it still wasn't good enough because my dad still left, so step it up! And, stop being so b@tchy!" I suspected he'll have splinters in his behind from the door hitting him in the butt so hard and fast.
