what a selfish guy - aren't they all. Can you just ask him to be around? would it be too hard or too icky for you - or tipping your hand too much do you feel? this is just my gut reacting to this sitch-
it's such a giant and extreme circumstance in life -& sure not an everyday occurrence. I'm only thinking you have a right to think of yourself here and try to make it as best you can for you and baby and kids - - and if it is your wish for him to be around you sure have a right (imho) to ask for it. i don't pretend to know how he will react-
if it were me - i'd try requesting his presence - only to make myself feel like i had some "backup" out there - well, my usual old backup from olden days- and then deal again after baby is born with all the mlc, db, etc. stuff. (or something like this - if possible) i'd think one could put it on hold thru something like this- and resume the insanity- pain, worry, etc. later. could he "get" that?
if it fed his ego or whatever - i do not know about strategies - - i'm just thinking of you, thinkling of yourself and your own welfare, mentally and physically and kids too of course. you guys are still his family and he still has an obligation - i'd hope perhaps he'd feel too - if asked .-
I'm merely throwing in my 2 cents. i hope i'm not sounding pushy or bossy.
I have alot of sympathy for and with you- i hate him too. it's amazing to me how any people who ever had a shred of love or compassion in their hearts and minds (ever) could be soooo cold and callous and self-centered and ro tten to those they did love. where does their humanity go????.
this whole mlc of my h as well as teh entire universe out there in db land is such a sad awakening for me and maybe all of us. i had no idea in life - at all- tht people could be soooo hard and so totally self absorbed. i hate kn owing it now. if - it hurts to think about man's crueity and inhumanity to each other.
oh well huh- after saying that what is there left? i guess I "get" the need for religion when i think about this stuff. in such a mean and senseless world - a person sure could need to believe in something good - or some overriding kind diety out there or some darn "plan" - something, anything.
i am so sorry for your pain and your sitch and that you find yourself even having to feel or say this junk.
i wish i had more than just words to share-
we're all out here - i'll continue to read along- good luck with this- ((( )))
