So quick recap on last weeks events - W told me she was desperate for a feeling of love or hope towards me to work on marriage. She told me sees I have changed and she is very conflicted because it is all hurting our son so much. Also said she would contact her lawyer and cancel divorce proceedings - she said we might as well just wait the 2 years so no one needs to be blamed.
Those are good signs. Just don't try to hurry things along, she just left last month so this could just be the pursuit/ distance dynamic taking place. Just keep your DB'ing going and give her space.
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She left the house sobbing and promising to keep communication going. All I have had since is cold, short text messages until today when I received an email
That too is consistent with pursuit/ distance.
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Wondering what I should be making of this - it's very difficult not to over think it.
I agree with everything Grace said, don't make anything of it, just maintain distance and let your W work things through at her pace. Do you know the squirrel analogy? Think of it like that:
If you try to feed a squirrel by hand, you have to hold perfectly still. It will slowly come to you, but even if you don't move, it will sometimes get scared and retreat. But it will return and get a little closer each time. If you get impatient and make any move towards it, it will quickly run the other way and the entire process starts all over again from the beginning. But if you remain patient, it will come closer and closer until it will finally take the food from you.
