Just popping in with a question

[danielf]

I spent some time here about a year ago and got a lot out of the advice and encouragement I received. Thank you.
Since then, I've been popping in every once in a while just to read up and remember to stay the course and what the game plan should be.
Some background, W left me in CO and took the kids to TX. I came down a few months later. She has a BF but insisted that had nothing to do with us.
Right now, my wife and I are doing sortof a birds-nesting thing with the kids, taking turns staying with them at the apartment. We don't have a lot of contact other than business, as I try to keep the rope dropped. I wrestled a little with giving her flowers for VDay, and did. Her a dozen red, D11 a dozen pink.
I would like to share some texts from last night and invite feedback:

Her: Thank u for the flowers. 7:38 PM
Me: Happy Valentine's day 7:54 PM
Her: U too. 7:54 PM
Her: So, I spent this night alone. Kind of nice actually... But I want to hear from u. R u ready to end out marriage? I think u r. But u have not taken any st 11:04 PM
Her: eps to end it. And I, myself, an very scared and confused. I think the best thing is to move forward. I think u will be happier free of me. I am not good 11:04 PM
Her: for u. U need some one more like u...in ways I am not. But I am still scared. I enjoy alone. But I don't like the idea of feign alone always. So I have 11:04 PM
Her: to think we will both grow and find someone in our future. If u want to talk face time I'll be glad to! Tomorrow or u say when. Night! 11:04 PM

I had been saying that I wasn't reading into her not filing for D. I think the joke I used was disrespectful: "I think she figures that since I always did the taxes and D is just paperwork that it's my responsibility."
Anyways, I think I'd be prepared to talk with her and tell her that I understand if she files, but today I decide not to do that myself. I guess she would probably feel like I was provocative in that.
Open to thoughts. Dropping the rope is good, but does not mean I get to avoid life or action.
Thanks.