Hello. I am brand new here and looking for help, advice, comfort, etc.
Yesterday was our 32nd wedding anniversary. My husband's MLC started last summer but he denied that was what it was. We did some counseling but since we weren't addressing what was really going on it didn't do much good. He has finally accepted that this is his MLC.
Up until last summer he was singing me love songs, chasing me around the house and we were loving life and each other. Now... I don't know when the last time was he complimented me.
Husband has decided he needs to move out and live alone. He only want to be responsible for himself. I have come to accept that he belives this and will act on it. (I do truly, truly hope he is completely miserable on his own.)
The main reason I am here is that I am so confused. I feel like I am spinning in the wind every single day. Here is a classic example of why -
Last Saturday he went and looked at an apartment. Sunday he showed me his wedding ring that was bent out of shape. Then he tells me that he needs to get it fixed so it doesn't break and he might lose it. What??? He is leaving me but he is worried about his wedding ring?
He tells me he loves me but he isn't in love with me. He hugs and kisses me. He dances with me. He tells me he wants to work on our marriage and then he tells me he doesn't see me in his future.
I feel out of control and so very confused. I pray constantly. In fact I have a prayer mantra - WiSPS: Wisdom, Strength, Patience, Serenity. I am reading all the material I can find and trying to act on the advice.
Does anyone out there have a success story to share with me? Can anyone offer a sliver of hope to me? Do marriages truly survive this crazy journey?
