I remember he was really scared of getting married because of his parents' divorce.
I went through that as well. I was 31 before we got married, and we had dated and even bought a house together in the 5 years before that. In fact I never really intended to get married, I just didn't have any faith in marriage largely due to what happened with my parents.
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Yup that's me and I still enjoyed it every time. Comfort was very important for me to have "great" sex.
I see what you're saying, I guess it never dawned on me that repetition in sex is something that may have been "comfortable" to W and even something she would view as "great". That does make sense now that you mention it!
Originally Posted By: jzoom
Things change so quickly. Something I'm curious about (partly b/c I'm starting to see myself this way) is if you are becoming a WAH?
I think what you're asking is if I'm to the point (or close to it) of not wanting to reconcile no matter what. To be honest I'm not consistent on that, some days I think I'm done and other days I don't think that.
Originally Posted By: ForeverYoung
At the beginning of this thread there was so much hope for the M. Then, in less than 3 weeks, it's not only over, but it was never good to begin with!
I think I was guilty of the classic problem of reading too much into things. I thought I was seeing a change of heart from W and I wasn't. As far as me saying it was "never good to begin with", I never said that. What I said was W has her problems/ issues as well, and after BD while she was only seeing my faults at the expense of the good I was engaged in only seeing her good points and ignoring the bad. I've had enough time to reflect on that and remember that she is not without faults either, that we have had a mediocre relationship for many years in large part because of her lack of participation (working late every night, never home, not engaged, etc.) and that perhaps reconciling may not be good for me after all.
Like I said before, you're only getting a small sliver of me, my W and our relationship in this thread. Obviously trying to give you the full picture of 25 years together is impossible. You know a little bit of the sitch, but I simply can't convey the whole thing here no matter how much I sit here and type. You think things changed quickly in "only" 3 weeks, as a far-off bystander reading my thread now and then 3 weeks seems like the blink of an eye I'm sure. But for me, weeks seem like months and the 9 months since BD seems like years and years and years. I had to move on to save myself.
