Really annoyed with H this morning. He hasn't seen D since Friday morning. Who goes all weekend without making it a point to see their D?!
LMF - when my W was at her worst (about a year ago), she would stay away from the house 18-20 hours a day. It got to a point where I had to have our youngest D walk to her restaurant after school just so she could see her mom. Much has changed since then, so it can get better.
Originally Posted By: Lovemyfamily
A few goals I have come up with:
I will be a better listener - not just with H, with everyone. I tend to hurry a lot, which leads tointerrupting and not just listening.
I will quit discussing situation with friends as much - obviously sometimes it just has to happen. But I need to keep a lot more to myself. And just vent on here.
I will plan more things with my friends that do not inlcude 'going out'. I love to entertain, need to have people over more. Although this usually is dictated by others schedules -I'm home a lot lol.
H will contact me to see how I am - this used to happen but since I pulled away, he has too.
I will schedule a time with H to discuss visiting times with D. I've also thought about going back to having him for dinner a night each week - I'm torn on this - it was a good time for us to spend together, good family time. But I don't want to go back to letting him feel like the situation is ok.
I will read Let.It.Go and work on my control issues. I need to catch up on the online bible study going on with this book. It's been a little busy lately.
What do you all think?
Most of these are very good goals. You may or may not have any results from trying to schedule time for your D with H. I usually had to surprise my W to get her to do anything with our D. After a few times of that, it did get easier.
