Re: AS. Thanks so much for your reply. It really helps to know that there are people out there who take the time to give support and advice, or just a friendly ear.
You're welcome! You should be off moderation now or soon, when that happens then every time you post it'll bump your thread to the top and you'll get more responses. It's tough when you're on moderation because your thread never makes it up past page 3 or 4 and as such, not many people see and respond to it.
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Just now it seems like I am taking small steps in the right direction, when it comes to working on myself.
Small steps are great! Many of us try to move mountains right away after BD and it's tough to keep the pace going when you do that. It's a lot easier to adjust to small moves and to keep them going.
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Also continuing to think about not pressuring her to stay, but sometimes it gets to me and I get sad, so I try to be on my own.
It's normal to feel sadness as well as anger, pain and other emotions. In DR Michele talks about acting "as if" everything is fine even though it isn't. Try to always be positive and happy around your W. Also always present the best "you", keep yourself well-groomed and looking good!
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W says she wants to continue MC, helps us communicate. But she says maybe we should go every 3 or 4 weeks instead of every week.
WAS's tend to view MC as pressure, so I think she's making a reasonable request.
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Have ordered DB and DR, still waiting for their arrival. Trying to sort out my thoughts and emotions so I can make concrete decisions on exactly what I need to 180
You might just wait on that until you can read DR, it'll help a lot with figuring out 180's and what to do.
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Monday is our 4 year anniversary :-( ... Wonder how to deal with that???
The general consensus here seems to be to just ignore the date. My W and I had our 20th anniversary a few months after BD and we went out to dinner but didn't exchange cards or gifts.
