Gonna be different now, (butterfly in hurricane).

[25yearsmlc]

Bruce

right now you are in a LEGAL BATTLE and you cannot at the same time, try to woo her.

The best you can do is pursue your legal interests. She may get some TEMPORARY alimony but with a 3 year marriage it won't exceed the length of the marriage. So at worst, you'd pay a few years and no it won't be half your salary PLUS child support. It just won't be.

As for the costs she is paying or not paying, it only matters so much. That's b/c even if she pays them nothing then YOU would be benefitting b/c if she did rent a real apartment you'd have to pay more.

Chances are that the amount she claims to pay them is NOT what she'd claim to pay in real rent so I'm not sure what you'll win arguing that she is lying anyhow.

Your lawyer did the right thing and off you'll go to court in the morning and not lose what she was suggesting to you.

For NOW, let her see what happens. Don't say anything mean or assume or mind read negatively.

She is angry and she has the right to be angry. But that does not mean you surrender your legal/parental rights.

Just stop thinking you can pursue her WHILE battling in court. You cannot. See Crimson's thread for his history. You'll have to let the dust/reality settle down (for both of you).

Learn from Crimson...don't wonder about your wife's intent right now. What we KNOW is she filed for divorce and full custody.

We know that^^^...that's all we KNOW...and that she insists in a semi formal setting that you were abusive. My guess is, she believes it. You don't.

That's what we KNOW...so don't ask us to guess when she'll forgive you or want you back. That is not the question you need to ask yourself at the moment.

For the last time, just focus on your son. It's possibly the only thing that might strike her as unusual or new for you...If that matters to her, which it probably does NOT at the moment.