All of us and our babies, Hon. Not such a bad day...plenty of people to love, lots to be grateful for.
If you have to handle the bank stuff, then do so. Quit shaking your head. You know she should know better, we know, with her background, she should know better, but it's sliding through her fingertips right now and it's my bet that all her energy and focus is on the D and herself right now. I balance eleventy seven things every second of every day and H can't remember that x or y is due even though it's been due for 15 years or whatever...
The all together facade is crumbling for your wife and I think this may just be the beginning. So you stick your path, protect yourself and the babies and hang on! (())