Wendylon, a few comments from an outsider's point of view: 1. One of your goals should be to change your perception that he sees you as a party-pooper. If he has said this, and you feel you can be happy by going along to the parties, then do a 180 and show him you can have fun with him. 2. The finance issue needs to be discussed. Bring this up when you're both calm and in a good mood. After all your finances are at risk too! 3. If he didn't live with you, he would learn the hard way and be forced to change. 4. The drinking sounds like an outlet bc he doesn't feel good about himself. Work on behaving in ways that make him feel good about himself, and he will start loving himself enough to treat his body well.
