Bea, I am glad you have a sense of closure, to a point. the way you describe it, he sounds a little desperate. But be careful in feeling too sorry for him. I have had to realize that pity and love aren't the same.
I have found the tables turning a bit as well, but I had a dream where we sort of got back together and I really did not want to be with him any more. He just started back in with his criticism and I was thinking "Wow, I don't want to deal with that."
The last time X had anything to say to me, he gave an angry MLC-ish apology that was still blaming me.
I have noticed odd looks from X, but you know things have changed when you just don't really care.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D