LIS,
Thank you, Your advice is really helpful.

I have been puzzled by stbx's recent focus on turning things bitter.

It helps to think that I am stuck in a game of chess at the moment.

I do document everything.

I need to keep calm, keep strategic and have faith in the process.
Most of all I need to keep my head.

I need to protect myself (and stop being a victim - as labug says).

Please feel free to keep me on track ANYTIME.

Let me re-phrase that in case you didn't get it!
Please continue to help me out by posting. Your perspective and experience really helps me to see things in a better light.