I don't think I have ever posted to you and I do have experience in affairs. I do suspect there might be OM in my sitch, although since we are S there is not much I can do except work on myself. I am done snooping as it does nothing for detachment. With that being said I think there is one common thing that most all of us share.
That one thing has to do with respect. I don't believe our spouses would cheat, lie, and leave us if they hadn't lost respect for us. I believe there are different levels of respect and they have lost enough to do the things they do. They lose that respect, probably for a lot of reasons. Some might not have anything to do with us, but more often than not it is because we have ignored, or may not even understood their needs.
When we married them we shared the deepest level of respect for each other. Over time it has waned to the point where we find ourselves here. I don't believe your w was any different. And now with what she is putting you through tells me she has very little respect for you. If you want to be the guy she married, the guy she respected enough to say "I do", the guy she had a child with, it is time to gain the respect back. Seriously placing some boundaries is a great place to start. And yes there is always a chance that she may leave and it will be over, and if you continue down this path there is a pretty good chance that OM will be replaced with another OM.
One question for you, do you respect yourself? Is what you are doing increasing that self-respect?
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
