Thanks SS..That is helpful. I'm sure I've read your comments on a previous post of yours. I think basically its a guy thing. Some really struggle with stuff like this. My DB coach told me that guys really "HATE" R talks so mostly I try not to make a big deal about it. Other times I feel a bit short changed. I'm cycling between the two.
Funny about what I said above about H being an "emotional cripple". He handed me a Valentines Day card this afternoon. Inside he had written "To My Valentine, Lots of Love from The Emotional Cripple". I guess he knows himself better than anyone.
I definitely agree with what you said about addressing things and then letting them go. I've found that it works best for us too. I get a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach trying to figure whether to bring up an issue or let it go. When I decide something has to be said, I take a deep breath....I just don't lecture or get into a rave. It works best. Then we kiss and move on.
I wonder how long it will take before that feeling subsides. BD No. 5?? This is definitely a work in progress.
