25yearsmlc

[25yearsmlc]

25yearsmic,
You know what, I never got to break the secret code behind your name. Is it 25 years of mic, is it 25 year old smic ? I can't seem to figure out what this name is...

Enough lol...

About "the worse possible situation" you describe above, I'm afraid I'm in that case. Without wanting to play victim again, there is little fault in me, and WAS still wants to leave.

Bruce, I cannot say I agree with this^^ take on your situation, but I answered on your thread. I hope you'll see that you are NOT powerless in your situation, even now.



I wish she did reproach something big to me. But she always remained very vague about her reasons, making it super difficult to know what to address and do next.

Perhaps she discussed it with you but you did not hear her or listen. Come to think of it, she wrote you a letter in which she mentioned the "talks" you had in the past. So issues were discussed before she wrote you the letter.

So I think if you dig deeper, you'll see that indeed she did tell you. Also, you yourself admitted in your posts, that you ignored her when she was "in a bad humor" and she had just had a newborn baby, whom you resented & chose to ignore b/c you were 'waiting" for him to be older so you could then play with him. Those are your words Bruce.

I suspect if you really look hard, you'll see that you did play a role in her departure.

What I really hope is that you see that in a way, that^^ is GOOD NEWS...b/c you don't have to wonder about it happening again & again...

b/c you will behave differently and you will make different choices in your next r, with her or with someone else. Surely you will not repeat the same mistakes.

And that means your chances of reconciling and staying reconciled, or building a better m with someone else, are much higher when you see your role in things.


Anyways, more on this on my thread, I'm here to give big thanks obviously for all your help, and wish you blessings from above for the pain and relief you bring to people here,

Bruce.