Looking for a little advice and support

[cbtdad]

"So with that said, what do you want to work on? Who do you want to be?"

I have really begun a couple months working on a lot of changes in me. I know I am capable of so much more. I've begun to treat my career as a 9-5 and doing it everyday. I've lost almost 20 lbs by exercising and eating better. I've curbed the drinking big time and have only gone out a couple times in the last couple of months. I have formed a much better relationship with Christ and the church.
I now see how selfish I was being. Constantly putting my needs before hers and my sons. I've learned that love is an action not an emotion. Loving somebody is all about putting their needs first because you can't live without them in your life.
It's not just about a feeling.
I've really tried to learn through Christ the way I should treat my wife and our son. I had such a bad example as a father and picked up so many bad things. I'm learning to love as my Father would want me to and not how my biological father taught me.
The W definitely still communicates with me and even her friends have told me she wants it to work, but I just have a lot of changing to do.
I'm nowhere close to where I want to be yet and wouldn't ask her to competely reconcile until I am.
Thanks for the support!