My husband's MLC started last summer and he announced that he wasn't "in love" with me any longer. We sought counseling but he refused to consider he was going through his MLC. He has now accepted that this is what is happening. (Progress?)
Since we identified what is happening I have been doing everything I can to educate myself on MLC. And I have been trying very hard to put into practice the advice and suggestions I have read.
I am so very, very confused by his actions and his words. He says he still loves me. He says he wants our marriage to work out. But then...
About 6 weeks ago he told me he was moving out. He needs to live by himself and he doesn't want to be responsible for anyone but himself. I have accepted that this is what he believes he needs to do and that he will be moving out. (I do, however, hope he is completely miserable on his own.)
Last Saturday he looked at another apartment. Then on Sunday he showed me that his wedding ring was bent out of shape. He stated that he needed to get it fixed because he didn't want it to break and lose it. Wait, he is leaving me but he is worried about his wedding ring?
Today is our 32nd wedding anniversary. He asked me out to dinner and we are going out. He gave me a very loving card this morning.
I don't have many friends here and my family doesn't understand what is going on so they aren't much help. I pray almost constantly for "WiSPS" (Wisdom, Strength, Patience and Serenity).
I am so confused. Is this "normal" behavior for someone going through their MLC? Can anyone out there offer a real life story of their marriage surviving a spouse moving out? Is there any hope?
