We had another chat session. During the session it became clear to me that H is NOT serious about building a new relationship with me but rather wants to get me to see that if I just do what he asks we could get back together.
I pointed out to him in a friendly way that in the past 2 months he has promised to do 4 things:
- Call me when he got to his parents to let me know he arrived - Write to me - Quit posting on a toxic website - Put together a bullet-point list of reconciliation criteria
He has done NONE of these things. I pointed out that these were not actions I requested but that he stated he would do. I told him that I will no longer reach out to him. I reminded him that he has my phone number and address so he knows where to find me.
He tried to redirect attention back to me "exiling" him. Well, I reminded him that sneaking away when I'm not home is not exiling.
So I got off the chat. I never got angry even though he kept trying to say that I was angry. He was trying to deflect back to old arguments. I wouldn't bite.
He said he would call this weekend to show sincerity but I've already decided that I don't expect him to so I'm done.
I think he would be perfectly happy to stay where he is and chat with me online for months until I offered to buy him a plane ticket and agree to let him come back, not have to work a job, and take all the blame for his bad feelings.
Anyway, not sure if I will go dark. I certainly must do LRT at this point because he's playing a game with me.
Ideas??????
M: 44 H: 49 4 children from previous R (3 @ home, 1 in college) M: 4 S: 12/12 H wants to come home: 2/13
