D16 just expressed a few days ago that she hates Sundays because that's when we do the swaps, and it does make me sad that she's still in pain over it. I can still remember how much it hurt when my parents divorced almost 40 years ago and so I do have a sense of what they're going through.
My H too. When he first reached his breaking point we were in the middle of fertility treatment. He said at the time he thought we could not have a kid that would be passed around in the parking lot just like he was when his parents divorced. Everyone around him including his parents love him to death but the scar is too big for him. Now the scar is even bigger with our m problem. I remember he was really scared of getting married because of his parents' divorce. My parents are still together so my view towards marriage was completely different. I wasn't scared even a little bit. My parents are not the most loving couple and I remember my mom threatening D ALL the time when I was a teenager but now they are older they have the love that only they can explain. My mom had in-law problems all the time, my brother caused them to fight a lot, my dad had an affair (which I recently discovered from my mom, and she kinda laughs about it now) but she never walked out and ended up caring for my grandpa (my dad's dad) until his death even though she and he had a MAJOR problem when he was well. I guess seeing that made me not be scared of a marriage.
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W used to be a lot more enthusiastic about sex, but for quite a while she got into this rut of just wanting to do the exact same thing every time. Eeeeeeevery time.
Yup that's me and I still enjoyed it every time. Comfort was very important for me to have "great" sex. I wish my H brought up the "boring sex issue" in a different way than he did. One time he brought it up and said something that really hurt my feelings. Since then every time he brought it up I felt resentment. (I already told him about this after BD and he was sorry) I just wish we could have put ourselves in each other shoe at that time.
M37 H36 M8 T12 inc 3yr L-dist 7/12:H broke down 10/12:H dad D frm W4. BD soon after 1/13:H wants to leave 2/13:H gpa passed. Feels closer but H still leaving 3/13: S begins
