3 Months in, Still fighting. Crunch time!

[Tallula]

I knew I needed to set boundaries when I couldn't stand it for ME anymore. I didn't do it to teach H a lesson. While he may need a lesson in how good he does have it with me, or what life will be like without the kids all the time, that is NOT why I stated my firm boundaries. Is it great that it had a positive effect, yes. But I needed to get to that place where the result of my standing my ground, was for me. Not H.

I had people tell me what to do in real life & here that I didn't do. It didn't conflict me. I knew I'd move when I was ready. I am grateful that I have not one regret in it. Nothing. I needed to do it for me. H has his own God & his own path. I will still keep the path home paved, as they say. But my growth & actions are for me. Our M will never work if I'm not a whole happy person. No marriage will.

Again, it seems like the point is still not there SM. Set the boundaries FOR YOU!! Byproduct might be that she leaves OM, and learn how great she had it. Maybe not. But if you know it's what you need to do for you, then it's never wrong! Outs not to punish someone, it's to save you.