I think my needle may be stuck in the same groove. And truthfully, it is so much easier on me when I simply let him initiate the contact. In a small way, if he contacts me it means he wants to talk to me.
I know part of it is now there is no OW in his life, so I am playing the fall back to some extent. I do not like it but I will ride this out for now.
I really believe that he has no real clue what devestation he left behind. Even when he talks about the things he wants to discuss with his counsellor, they are things like how to handle his sister (who is going through troubles of her own) and NOT his own issues. Almost bit my tongue in two for wanting to ask why not discuss with your counsellor how you were content to throw your so-called best friend under a bus? HIs next session is later this week.
While I really hope that he works on his issues, I am almot glad for this "limbo". My parent is fading and so is my emotional tank. When we talk, he talks of himself and his life so I fight the urge to give advice and offer solutions.
Well, Happy Valentine's Day to everyone. Do something to make you smile - I put my cat's food in a heart shaped bowl this morning
