I guess I have hard time swallowing your extreme positive attitude because I feel no sense of loss in your words. I know I would still be sad even after GAL.
I went through some really terrible times after BD, very intense pain and sadness. Not really sure why I don't feel sadness about W now, maybe I just got it all out of my system. I do still have positive feelings for her, I'm sure I always will as I don't think you can spend 25 years with someone and just close the door on those feelings for good. I do still get sad about the kids though. Both because they're hurting over the sitch, and because I don't get to see them all the time anymore. I do still see them almost every day because they come to my house after school, but it's not the same as when we were all under one roof. D16 just expressed a few days ago that she hates Sundays because that's when we do the swaps, and it does make me sad that she's still in pain over it. I can still remember how much it hurt when my parents divorced almost 40 years ago and so I do have a sense of what they're going through.
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That's another huge misunderstanding many Hs and Ws have I think. Many Hs say they want to explore and do different things but I wonder if they know how to get W excited about sex so they want to try different things..
W used to be a lot more enthusiastic about sex, but for quite a while she got into this rut of just wanting to do the exact same thing every time. Eeeeeeevery time. It was like an A, B, C, D procedure with almost no deviations. And to make matters worse, she was so paranoid that the kids might hear us that 90% of the time we had sex on the floor of the closet, LOL! Seriously! So it had gotten to the point where it seemed pretty mechanical, that's why I was surprised when she said she enjoyed it. I figured she was just going through the motions like I was.
